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Three Most Common Ways We Self-Sabotage and What You Can Do Today to Stop it Prt 2

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We all have lazy moments or days, but sometimes we purposely avoid doing tasks or looking for distractions. We can get caught up in social media for hours at a time and even put off appointments or cancel last minute. Procrastination and anxiety often go hand in hand.


Procrastination:


While procrastination is common with those who suffer from anxiety, the reasons behind it may surprise you. Procrastination helps us avoid situations, people, events, and opportunities because often, there is a fear of failure or a fear of success with anxiety. We fear success because we feel we can't deliver or feel unworthy of that success. Something or someone from our past has convinced us that we are not deserving of success, so unconsciously, or sometimes consciously, we self-sabotage that success.


If we fear failure, we try to avoid the feelings of defeat, being told "I told you so," feeling like a failure or less than because it was not completed or wasn't completed good enough. We tend to compare ourselves to others who have "succeeded" and think we are not enough.


Avoidance allows us to blame an outside influence/factor (traffic, this person's fault, etc.) instead of taking responsibility for things within our realm of control.


What we can do:


Identify and acknowledge the fear. Where is the fear coming from? How and when did it begin? What is it affecting in my life? Who is it affecting? This is an opportunity for growth. Here are a few simple ways to help with procrastination:


1- Get organized by creating a to-do list with the top priorities listed. Having a daily planner has helped me create a plan for my day, and if not, everything gets done that is ok. I know my priority list is completed, and some of my to-do's, which gives me a feeling of accomplishment.


2- Create a plan by breaking a project/task up into small pieces. Anyone with anxiety is easily overwhelmed but breaking something down into manageable parts and create a deadline for each part. Have an overall deadline for the entire project/task and allow a little cushion room for revisions or any additional work that needs to be done.


3- Eliminate distractions by deleting social media apps from your phone during working hours. We're so conditioned to clicking on an app and having instant access, who wants to actually wait 45-60 seconds for an app to download every time we want to use it. And that, my friends, is the point. Save that app for the end of the day or weekends and recondition yourself to not falling down the social media rabbit hole.


Join me for the final part of Three Most Common Ways We Self-Sabotage and What You Can Do Today to Stop it, where we will take a look at perfectionism. If you are struggling with self-sabotage or would like more information on it, schedule your free Discovery Call today on our BOOK ONLINE page to see how we can help.


Be well. Stay safe.


Blessed Be.


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